Before we jump into the book, I just wanted to thank you for praying about our prayer walk yesterday. I think the coolest thing that happened for me was hearing about how God spoke to the couple we were with. We got back to their house and started with him. He picked up two rusty, bent nails he found at the beginning of his walk. He held them up and said, "I found this nail, then I found the more rusty bent one, and it made me think of why we're doing this. Because Christ was nailed to a cross for me."
Her impressions were of the neighborhood. She talked of how nobody stays, they have been forgotten, the yards and houses aren't taken care of, there isn't any friendliness or kindness in the community.
Steps to Moving Beyond Disappointment by Charles Stanley
Realize that God is aware of your circumstances.
Understand that disappointment is a part of life. He [God] may have allowed some things to turn out differently from the way that you planned or even desired. But every single time you faced a moment of discouragement, He was right beside you, longing for you to ask for His strength, wisdom, and insight.
Many times, people do not do this because they want to feel a little depressed so they will gain extra attention. In other words, they enjoy self-pity. There is a problem here that often goes unnoticed until it is almost too late. Satan is plotting and planning your discouragement.
God does not want us to suffer. However there are times when He allows disappointment to touch our lives for a greater purpose. He draws us closer to Himself. James wrote, "Draw near to God and He will draw near to you" (James 4:8) If you resist Him the burden of your heart will only grow larger and heavier.
God's joy is not based on anything this world has to offer. It is rooted in the eternal promise that you have been given through Jesus Christ. That is, if you will place your faith in Him, He will save you from your sins and an eternal death. He also will give you the grace to reside with hope regardless of your circumstances.
We'll continue with these steps tomorrow. While I was at Awaken 2008, Wayne Cordiero gave us all a Life Journal. Not only that, he gave us a great structure for a quiet time. I'm not the kind of person who just sits down with her Bible and has frequent rich quiet times. If I have some structure, like a reading plan, steps, check boxes, a plan, I do so much better. My times have been so much richer this last week since using this Life Journal. I'll be using these for life! Last night I started reading Wayne's Divine Mentor book. It's not what I expected, but it is like what he talked about at the conference and it's pretty good.
I better be off to church!
Sunday, April 13, 2008
Saturday, April 12, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #34
Consequences of Disappointment by Charles Stanley
Prayerlessness: Once disappointment drifts into discouragement, the person usually stops praying. He becomes critical, cynical, and angry with God. He is likely to say something along these lines: "He is God, right. I mean, He could have stopped it."
Another consequence of disappointment is a divided mind. We cannot think clearly when we focus on Satan's lies and negative words. One man spent his entire life living in fear and disappointment because he viewed himself as a failure. His mind was divided, and he could not focus on the truth of God's Word. If he had, he would have quickly learned that all things are possible when we believe in God's Son.
We also become angry, and if this is not taken care of quickly, we will become depressed and self-centered. The definition for depression is simply anger turned inward.
Tomorrow we'll look at the steps in moving beyond disappointment, which is a much longer section.
Greg and I are going on another prayer walk on the west side this morning. We're being joined by a couple who lives there. Please pray that God will give us insight on our prayer walk. God bless you all.
Prayerlessness: Once disappointment drifts into discouragement, the person usually stops praying. He becomes critical, cynical, and angry with God. He is likely to say something along these lines: "He is God, right. I mean, He could have stopped it."
Another consequence of disappointment is a divided mind. We cannot think clearly when we focus on Satan's lies and negative words. One man spent his entire life living in fear and disappointment because he viewed himself as a failure. His mind was divided, and he could not focus on the truth of God's Word. If he had, he would have quickly learned that all things are possible when we believe in God's Son.
We also become angry, and if this is not taken care of quickly, we will become depressed and self-centered. The definition for depression is simply anger turned inward.
Tomorrow we'll look at the steps in moving beyond disappointment, which is a much longer section.
Greg and I are going on another prayer walk on the west side this morning. We're being joined by a couple who lives there. Please pray that God will give us insight on our prayer walk. God bless you all.
Friday, April 11, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #33
Now we get to go to chapter eight, the landmine of disappointment by Charles Stanley
Anything that drives us to the Lord is good for us. Disappointment, heartache, and sorrow are included here. Had God forgotten His promises to David? No, but David was not ready to assume the role of king of Israel. The years he spent battling hardship and disappointment were times of tremendous growth and preparation for the position that he would hold one day.
My caution to everyone reading these words is very simple: when disappointment strikes, don't give up and don't give in to thoughts of discouragement. You never know what God has waiting for you. Like David, you may go through a long season of waiting when disappointment seems to follow your every step. However, each series of trials prepared David for some aspect of the job that he would have one day.
God is omniscient, omnipresent, and omnipotent. We can rest in His presence because we know that He has only the best for our lives and He will not allow the enemy to harm us. If disappointment, sorrow, or trouble comes, He will teach us how to respond and lead us to a place of blessing and hope.
He [God] also knows the depth of your disappointments. But just as He had a greater plan for Christ's life, He also has one for you. If you never face disappointment, you will never know how to trust God, encourage others, or live in the comfort of His care.
Disappointment is an emotional response to some failed expectation or some desire that we have. It comes when we lose our godly motivation and drive, which bring fulfillment and purpose to life. When we lose these, our hearts can become heavy and sad.
Tomorrow we'll look at the consequences of disappointment. I think this is an area we can easily learn how to handle well, but it helps if we first go through it and experience handling it well, and see how God meets us there. Blessings this Friday!
Anything that drives us to the Lord is good for us. Disappointment, heartache, and sorrow are included here. Had God forgotten His promises to David? No, but David was not ready to assume the role of king of Israel. The years he spent battling hardship and disappointment were times of tremendous growth and preparation for the position that he would hold one day.
My caution to everyone reading these words is very simple: when disappointment strikes, don't give up and don't give in to thoughts of discouragement. You never know what God has waiting for you. Like David, you may go through a long season of waiting when disappointment seems to follow your every step. However, each series of trials prepared David for some aspect of the job that he would have one day.
God is omniscient, omnipresent, and omnipotent. We can rest in His presence because we know that He has only the best for our lives and He will not allow the enemy to harm us. If disappointment, sorrow, or trouble comes, He will teach us how to respond and lead us to a place of blessing and hope.
He [God] also knows the depth of your disappointments. But just as He had a greater plan for Christ's life, He also has one for you. If you never face disappointment, you will never know how to trust God, encourage others, or live in the comfort of His care.
Disappointment is an emotional response to some failed expectation or some desire that we have. It comes when we lose our godly motivation and drive, which bring fulfillment and purpose to life. When we lose these, our hearts can become heavy and sad.
Tomorrow we'll look at the consequences of disappointment. I think this is an area we can easily learn how to handle well, but it helps if we first go through it and experience handling it well, and see how God meets us there. Blessings this Friday!
Thursday, April 10, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #32
At the Altar by Charles Stanley
Jesus tells us, "If you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering" (Matt. 5:23-24)
Deal with anger through godly reconciliation.
Take forgiveness seriously by admitting that you have a problem.
Assume responsibility for your actions.
Deal with the problem God's way.
Confess what you've done.
Lay down your anger. No matter how heavy the weight of your frustration or sin may seem, god will shoulder it with you when you stop trying to control your circumstances with anger and bitterness.
Make a commitment to pray for the person who is the object of your unforgiveness.
If I had refused to forgive my stepfather, more than likely, God would not have given me the opportunity to preach the gospel all over the world. He watches the attitude of our hearts to see if we are fully devoted to trusting Him with every trial and heartache.
When unforgiveness leads you to animosity, bitterness, resentment, and hostility, you waste your life, and you miss the best that God has for you. You also end up suffering the consequences of your sin. And never forget; the shortest distance between your sin and God's forgiveness is the distance between your knees and the floor.
Don't you just love that last line? May forgiveness happen in your heart the same day you are wronged. It's not worth hanging on to.
Jesus tells us, "If you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering" (Matt. 5:23-24)
Deal with anger through godly reconciliation.
Take forgiveness seriously by admitting that you have a problem.
Assume responsibility for your actions.
Deal with the problem God's way.
Confess what you've done.
Lay down your anger. No matter how heavy the weight of your frustration or sin may seem, god will shoulder it with you when you stop trying to control your circumstances with anger and bitterness.
Make a commitment to pray for the person who is the object of your unforgiveness.
If I had refused to forgive my stepfather, more than likely, God would not have given me the opportunity to preach the gospel all over the world. He watches the attitude of our hearts to see if we are fully devoted to trusting Him with every trial and heartache.
When unforgiveness leads you to animosity, bitterness, resentment, and hostility, you waste your life, and you miss the best that God has for you. You also end up suffering the consequences of your sin. And never forget; the shortest distance between your sin and God's forgiveness is the distance between your knees and the floor.
Don't you just love that last line? May forgiveness happen in your heart the same day you are wronged. It's not worth hanging on to.
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #31
The Peace Forgiveness Brings by Charles Stanley
Often before the Lord uses us, He will take us through a time of reflection when He reveals issues within our lives that need to be addressed. Forgiveness may be a part of this process. If so, we need to be willing to forgive the person or persons who have hurt us, but we also need to forgive ourselves. Many emotional problems result from our refusal to forgive.
A Step-by-Step Plan
Lift your head and heart toward Him. Jeremiah 29:11 "I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.'"
Pray for the person who has hurt you. In quiet times alone with God, He will provide the insight and strength you need to understand what has happened. He also will show you how to pray about the situation. If you will fight your battles on your knees, God will move heaven and earth on your behalf.
You Will Experience a Sense of Joy and Peace
Essentially, when we do forgive, we release the other person to the Lord, but we also step out the door of bondage and onto a pathway of freedom that leads straight to the heart of God.
More than likely as you go through a week, there will be an opportunity for you to feel neglected, overlooked, and ill-treated. Perhaps you feel angry as a result of something that happened on your job, and you want to quit.
What do you do when it seems that you have not been treated fairly? You continue to obey God, and you make a commitment to trust Him regardless of your circumstances. You wait for Him to show you how to respond, and then you act accordingly.
The Bottom Line to Forgiveness
The author of Hebrews urged us, "Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled." (Heb. 12:14-15). To come short of God's grace means that we are unwilling to forgive.
I've got to admit I've learned a lot about forgiveness by reading through this chapter. I hope it's helped you too. Tomorrow we'll look at the section titled At the Altar. Have a great day.
Often before the Lord uses us, He will take us through a time of reflection when He reveals issues within our lives that need to be addressed. Forgiveness may be a part of this process. If so, we need to be willing to forgive the person or persons who have hurt us, but we also need to forgive ourselves. Many emotional problems result from our refusal to forgive.
A Step-by-Step Plan
Lift your head and heart toward Him. Jeremiah 29:11 "I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.'"
Pray for the person who has hurt you. In quiet times alone with God, He will provide the insight and strength you need to understand what has happened. He also will show you how to pray about the situation. If you will fight your battles on your knees, God will move heaven and earth on your behalf.
You Will Experience a Sense of Joy and Peace
Essentially, when we do forgive, we release the other person to the Lord, but we also step out the door of bondage and onto a pathway of freedom that leads straight to the heart of God.
More than likely as you go through a week, there will be an opportunity for you to feel neglected, overlooked, and ill-treated. Perhaps you feel angry as a result of something that happened on your job, and you want to quit.
What do you do when it seems that you have not been treated fairly? You continue to obey God, and you make a commitment to trust Him regardless of your circumstances. You wait for Him to show you how to respond, and then you act accordingly.
The Bottom Line to Forgiveness
The author of Hebrews urged us, "Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled." (Heb. 12:14-15). To come short of God's grace means that we are unwilling to forgive.
I've got to admit I've learned a lot about forgiveness by reading through this chapter. I hope it's helped you too. Tomorrow we'll look at the section titled At the Altar. Have a great day.
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #30
Continuing the chapter on Unforgiveness by Charles Stanley
Handling the Hurts We Feel
There are three parts to uncovering the landmine of unforgiveness. Each one is the result of a godly choice.
1. Choose to let go of every feeling of resentment.
2. Lay down the right to get even. God doesn't let the person who harmed you off the hook. You forgive because this is what He desires for you to do.
An unforgiving spirit binds us to the abuser. We may think that in order for the person to be punished, we need to remain angry, but all we are doing is hurting ourselves even more. You extend forgiveness to another person even though he or she may not deserve or ask for this. You are responding like God-like Christ and like the person you were created to be.
3. Allow God to deal with the person who has hurt or abused you. ...you cannot go forward if you are only looking behind. Many times the person who has caused the trauma we feel may not even know what he or she has done or, worse, care.
Unforgivness prevents you from worshipping God.
Forgiveness: Don't Overlook This
First of all, if you handle hurt in the right way, you will turn to Him and not rely on angry emotions to lift you up. Feelings of anger and resentment only tear down what God wants to establish. And He wants you to become a person who forgives and loves others the same way He does. But you cannot do this if you cling to feelings of unforgiveness.
Another thing you need to consider is this: if you have never been hurt, you will not understand the concept of forgiveness. To forgive, you must suffer, and you must also receive forgiveness for any wrong you have committed.
Remember what I said earlier: whatever has your attention has you. If you are captivated by God's love, you will live with the light of His love burning in your heart. You will know joy, peace, and contentment. However, if you are angry, butter, and resentful, you will struggle with feelings of unforgiveness, anxiety, and fear. Your heart will not be at rest, and you will face emotional and physical problems.
The moment we begin to believe that we have a right to be angry is the moment we have switched from following God's lead to setting the pace for our own lives.
Good stuff today. Tomorrow we'll talk about the peace that forgiveness brings. As I read part of this chapter yesterday, I felt prompted to forgive some people. I knew I was stuck in a cycle of resentment and anger and even disbelief and I prayed and forgave these people. Since then, I've felt so much lighter in my spirit. It isn't a concern. I'm not playing conversations in my head anymore. It's the best thing you can do if you haven't sat down and made a conscious decision to forgive.
I remember going through my separation with my first husband in 1992. I knew the first thing I had to do was forgive him for cheating, leaving, the verbal abuse, the lack of financial responsibility. It set me free to be the best mom I could be to my kids. The kids weren't raised in an environment of dad-bashing. When they were old enough, they were able to make their own evaluation of the kind of person their dad was, and they have done a good job at seeing the truth. Once he got over his feelings of guilt, he was able to tell me what a great job I was doing raising our kids. His parents said this too. The rewards of forgiveness reached so much further than I could have ever imagined. Healthy kids raised in an peaceful home, a good relationship with their dad, what more could a divorced woman ask for?
Handling the Hurts We Feel
There are three parts to uncovering the landmine of unforgiveness. Each one is the result of a godly choice.
1. Choose to let go of every feeling of resentment.
2. Lay down the right to get even. God doesn't let the person who harmed you off the hook. You forgive because this is what He desires for you to do.
An unforgiving spirit binds us to the abuser. We may think that in order for the person to be punished, we need to remain angry, but all we are doing is hurting ourselves even more. You extend forgiveness to another person even though he or she may not deserve or ask for this. You are responding like God-like Christ and like the person you were created to be.
3. Allow God to deal with the person who has hurt or abused you. ...you cannot go forward if you are only looking behind. Many times the person who has caused the trauma we feel may not even know what he or she has done or, worse, care.
Unforgivness prevents you from worshipping God.
Forgiveness: Don't Overlook This
First of all, if you handle hurt in the right way, you will turn to Him and not rely on angry emotions to lift you up. Feelings of anger and resentment only tear down what God wants to establish. And He wants you to become a person who forgives and loves others the same way He does. But you cannot do this if you cling to feelings of unforgiveness.
Another thing you need to consider is this: if you have never been hurt, you will not understand the concept of forgiveness. To forgive, you must suffer, and you must also receive forgiveness for any wrong you have committed.
Remember what I said earlier: whatever has your attention has you. If you are captivated by God's love, you will live with the light of His love burning in your heart. You will know joy, peace, and contentment. However, if you are angry, butter, and resentful, you will struggle with feelings of unforgiveness, anxiety, and fear. Your heart will not be at rest, and you will face emotional and physical problems.
The moment we begin to believe that we have a right to be angry is the moment we have switched from following God's lead to setting the pace for our own lives.
Good stuff today. Tomorrow we'll talk about the peace that forgiveness brings. As I read part of this chapter yesterday, I felt prompted to forgive some people. I knew I was stuck in a cycle of resentment and anger and even disbelief and I prayed and forgave these people. Since then, I've felt so much lighter in my spirit. It isn't a concern. I'm not playing conversations in my head anymore. It's the best thing you can do if you haven't sat down and made a conscious decision to forgive.
I remember going through my separation with my first husband in 1992. I knew the first thing I had to do was forgive him for cheating, leaving, the verbal abuse, the lack of financial responsibility. It set me free to be the best mom I could be to my kids. The kids weren't raised in an environment of dad-bashing. When they were old enough, they were able to make their own evaluation of the kind of person their dad was, and they have done a good job at seeing the truth. Once he got over his feelings of guilt, he was able to tell me what a great job I was doing raising our kids. His parents said this too. The rewards of forgiveness reached so much further than I could have ever imagined. Healthy kids raised in an peaceful home, a good relationship with their dad, what more could a divorced woman ask for?
Monday, April 7, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #29
Today we start chapter seven, The Landmine of Unforgiveness by Charles Stanley
Someone has hurt you, and you cannot shake the feelings of sorrow that blanket your heart. You get up every morning and tell yourself you need to keep going. But before the afternoon, you are struggling with thoughts of unforgiveness and depression. You tell yourself that nothing will ever be right again. When you have been hurt, how do you handle your emotions?
Disbelief and shock may be your first response. You may even deny the problem exists in hopes that it will go away or get better. You think, Surely he didn't say that about me.
Forgiveness or the refusal to forgive is probably one of the most exhausting struggles we face, because much of the battle takes place in our minds and emotions. We may mentally replay an event that has happened to us and our reactions to it for days or months, and in some cases, years or a lifetime. Some people cannot or choose not to work past the hurts they have suffered. They are stuck in a cul-de-sac of emotion and never take advantage of the opportunity God has given them to avoid the landmines of anger, resentment, bitterness, and fear.
As you long to refuse to forgive those who hurt you, you remain bound to them through the anger and resentment you feel. You are not free but bound emotionally and spiritually to this deadly sin.
When we allow unforgiveness to control our lives, we cannot become the people God has created us to be. Likewise, when we refuse to forgive ourselves, we run the risk of suffering deep heartache and depression-the kind that can follow us through a lifetime. And if we fail to accept the forgiveness extended to us by God and others, we can end up suffering the same emotions. We never come to a point where we truly enjoy the goodness and joy of God's blessings.
The apostle Paul admonished us, "Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." (Eph. 4:30-32)
That's good for today. I don't know if Stanley will state this later in the chapter or not, but I feel it is important to bring up one thing. When someone has done something to you that isn't right, whether by words or actions, just as important to forgive is to try and set things right. The person needs to be confronted on their actions. Many people have no idea what they have done or what hurt it has caused. Matthew tells us that when a brother offends us, we are to go to him directly to confront. (Matt. 18:15-17) Better sooner than later, but it needs to be done nonetheless. Do everything you can to make peace and live in harmony with the other person. Be humble, willing to accept responsibility for your part in the situation. We're all going to wrong people, hurt people, cause due or undue offense and we need to learn how to navigate the waters of peacemaking.
Have a blessed day!
Someone has hurt you, and you cannot shake the feelings of sorrow that blanket your heart. You get up every morning and tell yourself you need to keep going. But before the afternoon, you are struggling with thoughts of unforgiveness and depression. You tell yourself that nothing will ever be right again. When you have been hurt, how do you handle your emotions?
Disbelief and shock may be your first response. You may even deny the problem exists in hopes that it will go away or get better. You think, Surely he didn't say that about me.
Forgiveness or the refusal to forgive is probably one of the most exhausting struggles we face, because much of the battle takes place in our minds and emotions. We may mentally replay an event that has happened to us and our reactions to it for days or months, and in some cases, years or a lifetime. Some people cannot or choose not to work past the hurts they have suffered. They are stuck in a cul-de-sac of emotion and never take advantage of the opportunity God has given them to avoid the landmines of anger, resentment, bitterness, and fear.
As you long to refuse to forgive those who hurt you, you remain bound to them through the anger and resentment you feel. You are not free but bound emotionally and spiritually to this deadly sin.
When we allow unforgiveness to control our lives, we cannot become the people God has created us to be. Likewise, when we refuse to forgive ourselves, we run the risk of suffering deep heartache and depression-the kind that can follow us through a lifetime. And if we fail to accept the forgiveness extended to us by God and others, we can end up suffering the same emotions. We never come to a point where we truly enjoy the goodness and joy of God's blessings.
The apostle Paul admonished us, "Do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." (Eph. 4:30-32)
That's good for today. I don't know if Stanley will state this later in the chapter or not, but I feel it is important to bring up one thing. When someone has done something to you that isn't right, whether by words or actions, just as important to forgive is to try and set things right. The person needs to be confronted on their actions. Many people have no idea what they have done or what hurt it has caused. Matthew tells us that when a brother offends us, we are to go to him directly to confront. (Matt. 18:15-17) Better sooner than later, but it needs to be done nonetheless. Do everything you can to make peace and live in harmony with the other person. Be humble, willing to accept responsibility for your part in the situation. We're all going to wrong people, hurt people, cause due or undue offense and we need to learn how to navigate the waters of peacemaking.
Have a blessed day!
Sunday, April 6, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #28
Continuing on with Money as an area in which we compromise by Charles Stanley
A significant area of compromise today is that of finances. People are deeply in debt. However, the problem is much deeper than more debt. It is a matter of submission to God. Paul wrote, "For the love of money is a root of all sorts of evil, and some by longing for it have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs" (1 Tim. 6:10) According to Paul, the problem is not the paper currency we hold in our hands. Our attitude toward money is the problem. ... if your driving desire is focused on money, then you are caught up in worshipping something other than God, and He says this is sin because it separates you from Him.
You can say no to compromise
If you find yourself in a position of compromise, you can do several things to change your circumstances.
First, ask God to rekindle your love for Him.
Second, pray that He will help you to restore your faith in Him.
Third, make a commitment to stand firm and listen for God's leading.
Short today. Tomorrow we'll start chapter seven, The Landmine of Unforgiveness. That might be a tough pill to swallow, but all these chapters are necessary if we are to remove the cancers that can grow undetected in our hearts. Just a preview of the next few chapters, we'll be looking at disappointment, fear, and immorality, and slothfulness (laziness). I think this book will become a great resource for me in the future, not only keeping me on track, but also in helping others. If you're in ministry or discipling others, I'd recommend this book. Have a blessed Sunday.
A significant area of compromise today is that of finances. People are deeply in debt. However, the problem is much deeper than more debt. It is a matter of submission to God. Paul wrote, "For the love of money is a root of all sorts of evil, and some by longing for it have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs" (1 Tim. 6:10) According to Paul, the problem is not the paper currency we hold in our hands. Our attitude toward money is the problem. ... if your driving desire is focused on money, then you are caught up in worshipping something other than God, and He says this is sin because it separates you from Him.
You can say no to compromise
If you find yourself in a position of compromise, you can do several things to change your circumstances.
First, ask God to rekindle your love for Him.
Second, pray that He will help you to restore your faith in Him.
Third, make a commitment to stand firm and listen for God's leading.
Short today. Tomorrow we'll start chapter seven, The Landmine of Unforgiveness. That might be a tough pill to swallow, but all these chapters are necessary if we are to remove the cancers that can grow undetected in our hearts. Just a preview of the next few chapters, we'll be looking at disappointment, fear, and immorality, and slothfulness (laziness). I think this book will become a great resource for me in the future, not only keeping me on track, but also in helping others. If you're in ministry or discipling others, I'd recommend this book. Have a blessed Sunday.
Saturday, April 5, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #27
Good morning! Today we'll look at how marriage can be compromised by Charles Stanley.
Numerous times people have come to me saying how they have fallen in love with a wonderful person. It is always exciting to hear the joy in their voices. But before long, I see a drop in their happy expression. I usually know what they are about to say: "The only problem I'm facing is she [or he] is not a believer." This is a huge problem that cannot be explained away. The apostle Paul admonished,
Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever? Or what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God. (2 Cor. 6:14-16)
At this point, many people interject that they are witnessing to the person and not planning to marry him or her. They just want to date, but what they are doing is tripping a landmine that they cannot hope to defuse.
Compromise always leads us away from God-a little at first, but the destination is the same-far from God's will. What are you willing to compromise to feel accepted or loved for a short season? This line of thinking may sound very narrow-minded. If it does, then perhaps you have already started down the path of compromise.
These days, a kiss on the cheek is rarely where a couple says good night. If the person you are dating is a nonbeliever, he or she has the ability to pull you down. Over the years, I have seen many marriages-unequally yoked-end in sorrow and defeat. It may be one of the most difficult things you will ever do, but if you know the person you are seeing is not saved, then you need to step0 away from the relationship until there is an eternal shift in his or her devotion-one that you know without a doubt is sincere.
That's a good dose of wisdom for today. As I type, I'm reminded of a youth worker's job, and how important this kind of training is to them. Jr. High and High School kids are just starting to think in this direction. Feeling attractions to people at school can put them in harm's way if they haven't made pre-decisions. (Mentioned yesterday) I think often kids aren't taught about the dangers of close associations with unbelievers. Friendships with the same gender for the purpose of showing Christ's love and sharing the gospel is fine. But when an attraction to an unbeliever who is a member of the opposite gender starts to occur, it's a big red flag.
I know the pain of many women in our church who are married to unbelievers. Most of them were unbelievers when they got married, but became Christians afterwards. These wonderful ladies endure church services, Christmas celebrations, and other services alone, as their spouse refuses to enter the church, even for the sake of their wives. This puts up a wall, sending the message to the wife that she's not important enough for him to put aside his fears and discomfort to be with her.
There is another situation which should be looked at as well. It is when there is an attraction between two believers, but one is more spiritually mature than the other. This is an unequal yoking as well. Can it change? Sure. Do you want to bet on it? I'm not talking about Bible knowledge. I'm talking about the choices a person makes and their submission to the Lord and relationship with Him. When two are equally yoked, they can move ahead in their walk with lightening speed, instead of stopping at every disagreement and working it out at length.
I hope this has been helpful. Tomorrow we'll look at money.
Numerous times people have come to me saying how they have fallen in love with a wonderful person. It is always exciting to hear the joy in their voices. But before long, I see a drop in their happy expression. I usually know what they are about to say: "The only problem I'm facing is she [or he] is not a believer." This is a huge problem that cannot be explained away. The apostle Paul admonished,
Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever? Or what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God. (2 Cor. 6:14-16)
At this point, many people interject that they are witnessing to the person and not planning to marry him or her. They just want to date, but what they are doing is tripping a landmine that they cannot hope to defuse.
Compromise always leads us away from God-a little at first, but the destination is the same-far from God's will. What are you willing to compromise to feel accepted or loved for a short season? This line of thinking may sound very narrow-minded. If it does, then perhaps you have already started down the path of compromise.
These days, a kiss on the cheek is rarely where a couple says good night. If the person you are dating is a nonbeliever, he or she has the ability to pull you down. Over the years, I have seen many marriages-unequally yoked-end in sorrow and defeat. It may be one of the most difficult things you will ever do, but if you know the person you are seeing is not saved, then you need to step0 away from the relationship until there is an eternal shift in his or her devotion-one that you know without a doubt is sincere.
That's a good dose of wisdom for today. As I type, I'm reminded of a youth worker's job, and how important this kind of training is to them. Jr. High and High School kids are just starting to think in this direction. Feeling attractions to people at school can put them in harm's way if they haven't made pre-decisions. (Mentioned yesterday) I think often kids aren't taught about the dangers of close associations with unbelievers. Friendships with the same gender for the purpose of showing Christ's love and sharing the gospel is fine. But when an attraction to an unbeliever who is a member of the opposite gender starts to occur, it's a big red flag.
I know the pain of many women in our church who are married to unbelievers. Most of them were unbelievers when they got married, but became Christians afterwards. These wonderful ladies endure church services, Christmas celebrations, and other services alone, as their spouse refuses to enter the church, even for the sake of their wives. This puts up a wall, sending the message to the wife that she's not important enough for him to put aside his fears and discomfort to be with her.
There is another situation which should be looked at as well. It is when there is an attraction between two believers, but one is more spiritually mature than the other. This is an unequal yoking as well. Can it change? Sure. Do you want to bet on it? I'm not talking about Bible knowledge. I'm talking about the choices a person makes and their submission to the Lord and relationship with Him. When two are equally yoked, they can move ahead in their walk with lightening speed, instead of stopping at every disagreement and working it out at length.
I hope this has been helpful. Tomorrow we'll look at money.
Friday, April 4, 2008
Spritual Warfare #26
It's good to be back. Greg and I attended the Awaken 2008 conference in Pasadena. It was more than amazing. We got lots of confirmations about things. The conference was basically broken down into three topics: Leadership, Evangelism, and Culture. Check out the website. There were amazing speakers there. Greg had lunch with Erwin McManus. I was able to meet Erwin McManus, Wayne Cordeiro, Dr. Henry Cloud, and Phil Cooke as well as get my books signed by them. Phil Cooke is in the entertainment industry and just did a project in Turlock for a local church. (He couldn't remember which one). Wayne Cordeiro is the nicest person you'd ever want to meet. He was a Four Square guy. He and Greg knew some of the same people. Anyway, it was fabulous and we're planning on going next year as well.
Back to Compromise by Charles Stanley
Compromise Defined
What are the areas in which we compromise the most?
Morality We know what is right, but we ignore the truth for fear of not having our needs met. We may also be afraid that if we stand for what we believe, we will face rejection.
Principles Often when people are on the verge of compromise, they will ease up on their devotion to God. They say, "I've been busy every Sunday and just have not been able to go to church." Going to church will not assure us a position in God's kingdom. We are saved by faith, but a lack of desire to be in His house usually indicates that something is wrong-out of balance and the first step to failure.
Doctrinal Beliefs. When we compromise our convictions, fail to spend time with the Lord in prayer and the study of His Word, we are bound to end up hedging on our doctrinal views.
Parenting. Parents who begin to slip in their devotion to God rarely have the right tools to teach children how to walk wisely. If you are involved in a sinful situation, you will not be able to think clearly about what your children are doing. Beyond this, there is a natural temptation to compromise on certain things, such as what you allow them to watch, listen to, and do.
Some parents may think, Five minutes won't hurt them. However, those five minutes could lead to a lifetime of trouble and heartache.
Dress. What we wear and what we allow our children to wear are choices we must make that have tremendous potential for good or evil. If your heart is set on Christ, you will want to be like Him in all that you do, wear, and say.
Music. It is interesting to me that many Christians separate what they do in church on Sunday from what they do during the week.
Living the Christian life requires a lifestyle change that affects every area.
God created all things for us to enjoy; nevertheless, there is a line that He does not want us to cross. Music touches the deepest part of our being. Remember, He created it so that we could worship Him.
Conversation. The author of Proverbs wrote, "When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable" (Prov. 10:19) He also reminded us, "The words of a whisperer are like dainty morsels, / And they go down into the innermost parts of the body" (Prov. 18:8).
Tomorrow we'll look at compromise in the area of Marriage. There is a lot to show so this is a good stopping point.
I'm happy to say my daughter is very sensitive to the area of compromise, especially in dress, music, and speech. Though she goes to a Christian school, she is appalled at the way some of the girls in her class don't filter out books and music with bad messages. They compromise by rebelling against authority, by talking about 'sneaking' electronics on field trips, etc. You would think using the word 'sneak' would be a red flag to them, but it's not. I pray these girls make a turn, and quickly, before these compromises lead to really devastating life choices.
The teen years are hard enough, without dabbling in dangerous landmines. If you have teens, talk with them. The best choices are pre-choices. Deciding what to do if they are in a situation prevents them from having to make spur of the moment choices in the heat of the moment, and making the wrong choice. Have a great Friday!
Back to Compromise by Charles Stanley
Compromise Defined
What are the areas in which we compromise the most?
Morality We know what is right, but we ignore the truth for fear of not having our needs met. We may also be afraid that if we stand for what we believe, we will face rejection.
Principles Often when people are on the verge of compromise, they will ease up on their devotion to God. They say, "I've been busy every Sunday and just have not been able to go to church." Going to church will not assure us a position in God's kingdom. We are saved by faith, but a lack of desire to be in His house usually indicates that something is wrong-out of balance and the first step to failure.
Doctrinal Beliefs. When we compromise our convictions, fail to spend time with the Lord in prayer and the study of His Word, we are bound to end up hedging on our doctrinal views.
Parenting. Parents who begin to slip in their devotion to God rarely have the right tools to teach children how to walk wisely. If you are involved in a sinful situation, you will not be able to think clearly about what your children are doing. Beyond this, there is a natural temptation to compromise on certain things, such as what you allow them to watch, listen to, and do.
Some parents may think, Five minutes won't hurt them. However, those five minutes could lead to a lifetime of trouble and heartache.
Dress. What we wear and what we allow our children to wear are choices we must make that have tremendous potential for good or evil. If your heart is set on Christ, you will want to be like Him in all that you do, wear, and say.
Music. It is interesting to me that many Christians separate what they do in church on Sunday from what they do during the week.
Living the Christian life requires a lifestyle change that affects every area.
God created all things for us to enjoy; nevertheless, there is a line that He does not want us to cross. Music touches the deepest part of our being. Remember, He created it so that we could worship Him.
Conversation. The author of Proverbs wrote, "When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable" (Prov. 10:19) He also reminded us, "The words of a whisperer are like dainty morsels, / And they go down into the innermost parts of the body" (Prov. 18:8).
Tomorrow we'll look at compromise in the area of Marriage. There is a lot to show so this is a good stopping point.
I'm happy to say my daughter is very sensitive to the area of compromise, especially in dress, music, and speech. Though she goes to a Christian school, she is appalled at the way some of the girls in her class don't filter out books and music with bad messages. They compromise by rebelling against authority, by talking about 'sneaking' electronics on field trips, etc. You would think using the word 'sneak' would be a red flag to them, but it's not. I pray these girls make a turn, and quickly, before these compromises lead to really devastating life choices.
The teen years are hard enough, without dabbling in dangerous landmines. If you have teens, talk with them. The best choices are pre-choices. Deciding what to do if they are in a situation prevents them from having to make spur of the moment choices in the heat of the moment, and making the wrong choice. Have a great Friday!
Monday, March 31, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #25
The Consequences of a Wrong Decision by Charles Stanley
Your character is weakened.
Your personal testimony is diluted and suffers. Often nonbelievers are the first to notice a shift in someone's faith. They notice the compromise and make it clear that they are happy you have broken ranks and betrayed the convictions of your faith.
God's truth becomes irrelevant. Compromise changes the way we view issues such as abortion, homosexuality, adultery, and more. The person who is steeped in sin rarely raises an issue over what is right and what is wrong. Instead, she begins to view sins such as these as social issues that need to be defined by someone other than the church.
People abandon God's Word. We no longer consider God and what He says about our lives, circumstances, and relationships. This is the most sorrowful position for believers-on our own, away from God, and searching for true meaning.
A Costly Decision
Many times when we feel guilty, we are hearing the voice of God.
You won't lose your salvation when you compromise and do the opposite of what you know is right. Yet you risk losing the very thing that has the ability to keep you steady in times of trouble, and that is your intimate fellowship with the Savior. God will not compete with sin. When compromise and sin are present, He can choose to withhold His guidance and friendship until you confess your wrongdoing.
Friday we'll look at the areas in which we compromise. I'll be unable to blog until then. We had a wonderful sermon yesterday on compromise, looking at the character of Daniel. You can hear it here in a few hours once I upload it. It was spot on!
Have a great week.
Your character is weakened.
Your personal testimony is diluted and suffers. Often nonbelievers are the first to notice a shift in someone's faith. They notice the compromise and make it clear that they are happy you have broken ranks and betrayed the convictions of your faith.
God's truth becomes irrelevant. Compromise changes the way we view issues such as abortion, homosexuality, adultery, and more. The person who is steeped in sin rarely raises an issue over what is right and what is wrong. Instead, she begins to view sins such as these as social issues that need to be defined by someone other than the church.
People abandon God's Word. We no longer consider God and what He says about our lives, circumstances, and relationships. This is the most sorrowful position for believers-on our own, away from God, and searching for true meaning.
A Costly Decision
Many times when we feel guilty, we are hearing the voice of God.
You won't lose your salvation when you compromise and do the opposite of what you know is right. Yet you risk losing the very thing that has the ability to keep you steady in times of trouble, and that is your intimate fellowship with the Savior. God will not compete with sin. When compromise and sin are present, He can choose to withhold His guidance and friendship until you confess your wrongdoing.
Friday we'll look at the areas in which we compromise. I'll be unable to blog until then. We had a wonderful sermon yesterday on compromise, looking at the character of Daniel. You can hear it here in a few hours once I upload it. It was spot on!
Have a great week.
Sunday, March 30, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #24
Continuing on with Compromise and why we compromise by Charles Stanley
We fail to give God what He requires. Many people leave God out of their finances completely. In their minds they draw a line between God and their bank accounts. They go to church and worship God, but never transfer what they have learned through the teaching of His Word to the area of their finances. Whether we admit it or not, God owns everything. He is the One who gives us the "power to make wealth" (Deut. 8:18). When we fail to tithe and to give to His work, we miss a tremendous blessing. We also face the consequences that come from disobeying God. He is specific about giving - it is something we do not want to compromise, especially if we want to obey him.
We become spiritually weak and discouraged. When we compromise our basic convictions, our very thought patterns become corrupted. After a while, something inside us changes. Even other believers may end up being used by the enemy to create an atmosphere of discouragement and fear around our lives. You may feel weak in your devotion to the Lord, but He is your fortress-your deliverer, your shield, and the horn of your salvation-not just in times of trouble but through every season of life (Ps. 18).
We are blinded by pride. Pride isolates us from God and prevents us from experiencing the depth of His love and goodness. Many times, prideful people fail to realize the extent of their condition until it is too late or until God does something major to gain their attention.
Tomorrow we'll look at the consequences of a wrong decision. Good stuff? Have a great Sunday.
We fail to give God what He requires. Many people leave God out of their finances completely. In their minds they draw a line between God and their bank accounts. They go to church and worship God, but never transfer what they have learned through the teaching of His Word to the area of their finances. Whether we admit it or not, God owns everything. He is the One who gives us the "power to make wealth" (Deut. 8:18). When we fail to tithe and to give to His work, we miss a tremendous blessing. We also face the consequences that come from disobeying God. He is specific about giving - it is something we do not want to compromise, especially if we want to obey him.
We become spiritually weak and discouraged. When we compromise our basic convictions, our very thought patterns become corrupted. After a while, something inside us changes. Even other believers may end up being used by the enemy to create an atmosphere of discouragement and fear around our lives. You may feel weak in your devotion to the Lord, but He is your fortress-your deliverer, your shield, and the horn of your salvation-not just in times of trouble but through every season of life (Ps. 18).
We are blinded by pride. Pride isolates us from God and prevents us from experiencing the depth of His love and goodness. Many times, prideful people fail to realize the extent of their condition until it is too late or until God does something major to gain their attention.
Tomorrow we'll look at the consequences of a wrong decision. Good stuff? Have a great Sunday.
Saturday, March 29, 2008
Spritual Warfare #23
There were quite a few new visitors to the site yesterday, so I just wanted to say, "Welcome." We're going through a book called Landmines In The Path Of The Believer, Avoiding The Hidden Dangers. I blog on the parts of the book that particularly struck me so it is not complete, but I try to give enough complete thoughts to make it logical for you to follow and get the best nuggets of wisdom.
Starting Chapter 6 today with The Landmine of Compromise by Charles Stanley
Compromise - An attitude that develops and grows stronger with neglect and time. First, he [Satan] gains a foothold in a person's life by tempting him or her to yield to his relentless suggestions: "Just once won't hurt. Don't you get tired of being lonely? Don't you want to be part of the group? This is the way to do it. Just relax, take it easy, and let your heart go free." Satan always has a goal to reach, and it is to draw you away from the Father's love.
Anything that tempts you to abandon what you know is right should be viewed as deadly and dangerous and should be avoided at all costs. Many people fail to do this and become hooked by the subtle and evil lure of compromise, which leads to sin.
It leads to compromise and weakens our commitment to the Lord. One step taken in a wrong direction can do more damage than you will ever know.
The Truth About Compromise
If God has called you to a certain place, you need to stay put until He either moves you or makes it clear that He wants you to leave.
Never forget that there is always a small degree of truth tucked away in every one of Satan's lies. This is how he gets us to compromise our convictions and to do the very things God has told us not to do.
It is true: you can serve the Lord almost anywhere and at any time. Yet this does not necessarily mean you are fulfilling His will and purpose. He has a plan for you. You step on a powerful landmine when you decide that you will follow your own plans and not His.
If He has called you to do a certain job, stay at your post until He directs you differently. Even though the situation may be very trying, you will receive a wonderful reward for remaining obedient and not abandoning the work He has given you to do.
If you do leave, ... the sense of fulfillment will be gone because there is a distinct difference between being in the center of God's will and standing along the sidelines.
Why Do We Compromise?
We experience doubt and fear.
We want to avoid conflict. "If I say something, I'll lose my job." Instead of addressing the shift from truth to compromise, they will cower and allow things to roll along. There are times when we need to speak up, just as there are times when we need to be quiet. If you will seek God's counsel, He will show you what is correct concerning your circumstances.
We have a desire for unity. There are people who do not want to cause "waves." Instead of standing up for what they believe, they hold back and, in doing so, may compromise what God has given them to do. It always is a good thing to seek unity, especially among believers, but it is never good to do this when you end up jeopardizing what you know is right.
We have a deep need for acceptance. "Do I want to be accepted by a group of people who could love me today and not tomorrow, or by an eternal, loving, heavenly Father, Who loves me with an everlasting love?" When you make a commitment to be the person He has designed you to be, you will face some challenges. Rest assured, you won't face a single one alone.
We are overwhelmed by peer pressure. Many times, in order to be a part of a group, people will compromise their moral convictions, and the results are devastating. You never have to compromise what you know is true and right in order to be part of a group. The enemy will try and tempt you into making a quick, thoughtless decision, but God never will.
We'll stop there for today. There are several more points to make as to why we compromise, which we'll cover tomorrow. Which one(s) do you struggle with? For me, it is probably the avoidance of conflict and the unity one, which seem to overlap. At home, I can be the person God created me to be, freely giving my opinion, making people laugh, or being sarcastic or dry in my humor. I don't have to worry about offending anyone. I'm accepted because they know my heart. Grace is freely given here as is the charitable assumption, and there is peace and harmony in our home. I don't compromise who I am here and there is much freedom in that.
Starting Chapter 6 today with The Landmine of Compromise by Charles Stanley
Compromise - An attitude that develops and grows stronger with neglect and time. First, he [Satan] gains a foothold in a person's life by tempting him or her to yield to his relentless suggestions: "Just once won't hurt. Don't you get tired of being lonely? Don't you want to be part of the group? This is the way to do it. Just relax, take it easy, and let your heart go free." Satan always has a goal to reach, and it is to draw you away from the Father's love.
Anything that tempts you to abandon what you know is right should be viewed as deadly and dangerous and should be avoided at all costs. Many people fail to do this and become hooked by the subtle and evil lure of compromise, which leads to sin.
It leads to compromise and weakens our commitment to the Lord. One step taken in a wrong direction can do more damage than you will ever know.
The Truth About Compromise
If God has called you to a certain place, you need to stay put until He either moves you or makes it clear that He wants you to leave.
Never forget that there is always a small degree of truth tucked away in every one of Satan's lies. This is how he gets us to compromise our convictions and to do the very things God has told us not to do.
It is true: you can serve the Lord almost anywhere and at any time. Yet this does not necessarily mean you are fulfilling His will and purpose. He has a plan for you. You step on a powerful landmine when you decide that you will follow your own plans and not His.
If He has called you to do a certain job, stay at your post until He directs you differently. Even though the situation may be very trying, you will receive a wonderful reward for remaining obedient and not abandoning the work He has given you to do.
If you do leave, ... the sense of fulfillment will be gone because there is a distinct difference between being in the center of God's will and standing along the sidelines.
Why Do We Compromise?
We experience doubt and fear.
We want to avoid conflict. "If I say something, I'll lose my job." Instead of addressing the shift from truth to compromise, they will cower and allow things to roll along. There are times when we need to speak up, just as there are times when we need to be quiet. If you will seek God's counsel, He will show you what is correct concerning your circumstances.
We have a desire for unity. There are people who do not want to cause "waves." Instead of standing up for what they believe, they hold back and, in doing so, may compromise what God has given them to do. It always is a good thing to seek unity, especially among believers, but it is never good to do this when you end up jeopardizing what you know is right.
We have a deep need for acceptance. "Do I want to be accepted by a group of people who could love me today and not tomorrow, or by an eternal, loving, heavenly Father, Who loves me with an everlasting love?" When you make a commitment to be the person He has designed you to be, you will face some challenges. Rest assured, you won't face a single one alone.
We are overwhelmed by peer pressure. Many times, in order to be a part of a group, people will compromise their moral convictions, and the results are devastating. You never have to compromise what you know is true and right in order to be part of a group. The enemy will try and tempt you into making a quick, thoughtless decision, but God never will.
We'll stop there for today. There are several more points to make as to why we compromise, which we'll cover tomorrow. Which one(s) do you struggle with? For me, it is probably the avoidance of conflict and the unity one, which seem to overlap. At home, I can be the person God created me to be, freely giving my opinion, making people laugh, or being sarcastic or dry in my humor. I don't have to worry about offending anyone. I'm accepted because they know my heart. Grace is freely given here as is the charitable assumption, and there is peace and harmony in our home. I don't compromise who I am here and there is much freedom in that.
Friday, March 28, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #22
Continuing on with Taking the Right Steps to Overcome Insecurity by Charles Stanley
Acknowledge your feelings of insecurity.
Make the decision to overcome insecurity. Recognizing there is a problem may come quickly, but dealing with the root can take time. Remember, if you don't set a goal to deal with this, then you will never be free from its entrapment.
Realize that dealing with insecurity involves self-esteem. Ask God to show you how He sees your life. Refuse to focus on the negative.
Instead, focus on the Holy Spirit, who lives inside you. The best way to do this is to immerse yourself in the Word of God. His Word is powerful - "living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart" (Heb. 4:12). When you read what God has to say about you, you gain an entirely different viewpoint.
Focus on positive qualities. Joseph did not lie around in prison complaining that he had been wrongly treated.
Ask God to help you visualize His work in your life. God has a victory waiting for you, but it cannot be won with insecurity.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Ask God to show you what He has planned for your life. There are people who waste a great deal of time chasing dreams that are not the ones God has designed for them. The result is frustration and disappointment. We will never go wrong keeping our eyes set on Jesus and doing whatever He leads us to do.
Avoid the trap of blaming someone else.
Reward yourself when you do the right thing. The major hurdle to overcoming insecurity is overcoming your doubt of God's Word. Set your mind on being the person God wants you to be, and see what happens.
We're done with Chapter 5. The next chapter is something I think is in our life more than we even suspect. It is the Landmine of Compromise. Sometimes these opportunities to compromise come from family, friends, or acquaintances. Sometimes employees or employers. As Christians we need to be vigilant in our discernment of these situations and bold in our refusal to give in to them. A person can't participate in compromising situations and have integrity at the same time. Between the guilt and the consequences of compromise, it is never the better choice. This is a cleverly hidden landmine. But, that's tomorrow. Enjoy your day!
Acknowledge your feelings of insecurity.
Make the decision to overcome insecurity. Recognizing there is a problem may come quickly, but dealing with the root can take time. Remember, if you don't set a goal to deal with this, then you will never be free from its entrapment.
Realize that dealing with insecurity involves self-esteem. Ask God to show you how He sees your life. Refuse to focus on the negative.
Instead, focus on the Holy Spirit, who lives inside you. The best way to do this is to immerse yourself in the Word of God. His Word is powerful - "living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart" (Heb. 4:12). When you read what God has to say about you, you gain an entirely different viewpoint.
Focus on positive qualities. Joseph did not lie around in prison complaining that he had been wrongly treated.
Ask God to help you visualize His work in your life. God has a victory waiting for you, but it cannot be won with insecurity.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Ask God to show you what He has planned for your life. There are people who waste a great deal of time chasing dreams that are not the ones God has designed for them. The result is frustration and disappointment. We will never go wrong keeping our eyes set on Jesus and doing whatever He leads us to do.
Avoid the trap of blaming someone else.
Reward yourself when you do the right thing. The major hurdle to overcoming insecurity is overcoming your doubt of God's Word. Set your mind on being the person God wants you to be, and see what happens.
We're done with Chapter 5. The next chapter is something I think is in our life more than we even suspect. It is the Landmine of Compromise. Sometimes these opportunities to compromise come from family, friends, or acquaintances. Sometimes employees or employers. As Christians we need to be vigilant in our discernment of these situations and bold in our refusal to give in to them. A person can't participate in compromising situations and have integrity at the same time. Between the guilt and the consequences of compromise, it is never the better choice. This is a cleverly hidden landmine. But, that's tomorrow. Enjoy your day!
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #21
Discovering God's Goodness and Overcoming Insecurity by Charles Stanley
He [God] wants to set you free from the bondage of insecurity and help you to be the person He has created you to be.
What are the effects of insecurity?
1. A lack of lasting relationships
2. A perception of being prideful or snobbish
3. Indecisiveness
4. A fearful attitude
5. A brooding sense of anger
6. A record of being passed over for promotions and honors
7. The inability to meet others and establish friendships
8. The belief that success is based on the praise, approval, and acceptance of others
9. The desire to be in charge of every conversation
Take the Right Steps to Overcome Insecurity
If you are battling insecurity, how do you overcome it? One of the most important steps is to ask God to expose the problem of insecurity. A courageous spirit is not something that we receive at birth. We gain courage through faith in God.
If he [the enemy] notices you turning a fearful or insecure ear to listen to his accusations, he will open up a full assault on your emotions until you have collapsed in the dust of disappointment.
The way to overcome insecurity is to anchor your heart, soul, and mind to the unshakable love and power of the living God through faith in Jesus Christ.
You can't enjoy life if you feel insecure. You can't accomplish the goals God has given you if you feel overwhelmed and fearful. At some point, each one of us will battle insecurity.
The next area lists the ways to overcome insecurity. It's long so we'll stop here today.
I had a taste of my own medicine yesterday. I blogged about looking at situations from 20,000 feet up not from the muck of the current circumstances. I was hit with a big circumstance yesterday and felt pretty disappointed. As Greg and I went on our walk, God reminded me of my blog. "Listen to your own advice." Okay, yes, I was believing the worse before knowing how it would turn out, plus I was only looking at the situation, not the bigger picture of why this was happening. Was it another test of my faith? Another learning experience? I can see how God will use this in the future, so maybe it is good for me to go through. I'm not going to worry about it, we'll just go with the flow and see what happens. (For those of you who worry, no one is sick.) Have a blessed day.
He [God] wants to set you free from the bondage of insecurity and help you to be the person He has created you to be.
What are the effects of insecurity?
1. A lack of lasting relationships
2. A perception of being prideful or snobbish
3. Indecisiveness
4. A fearful attitude
5. A brooding sense of anger
6. A record of being passed over for promotions and honors
7. The inability to meet others and establish friendships
8. The belief that success is based on the praise, approval, and acceptance of others
9. The desire to be in charge of every conversation
Take the Right Steps to Overcome Insecurity
If you are battling insecurity, how do you overcome it? One of the most important steps is to ask God to expose the problem of insecurity. A courageous spirit is not something that we receive at birth. We gain courage through faith in God.
If he [the enemy] notices you turning a fearful or insecure ear to listen to his accusations, he will open up a full assault on your emotions until you have collapsed in the dust of disappointment.
The way to overcome insecurity is to anchor your heart, soul, and mind to the unshakable love and power of the living God through faith in Jesus Christ.
You can't enjoy life if you feel insecure. You can't accomplish the goals God has given you if you feel overwhelmed and fearful. At some point, each one of us will battle insecurity.
The next area lists the ways to overcome insecurity. It's long so we'll stop here today.
I had a taste of my own medicine yesterday. I blogged about looking at situations from 20,000 feet up not from the muck of the current circumstances. I was hit with a big circumstance yesterday and felt pretty disappointed. As Greg and I went on our walk, God reminded me of my blog. "Listen to your own advice." Okay, yes, I was believing the worse before knowing how it would turn out, plus I was only looking at the situation, not the bigger picture of why this was happening. Was it another test of my faith? Another learning experience? I can see how God will use this in the future, so maybe it is good for me to go through. I'm not going to worry about it, we'll just go with the flow and see what happens. (For those of you who worry, no one is sick.) Have a blessed day.
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #20
Set Your Focus on Christ and Receive the Victory by Charles Stanley
I remember a time when a group at church opposed me and did not want me to continue as pastor. The temptation that came to me was one of worry, fear, and insecurity. I instantly knew that if I listened to these voices, I would not be able to hear God's voice. Therefore, instead of giving in to thoughts of fear, I sought God in prayer, asking for His wisdom and encouragement.
He reminded me of the words in Isaiah 54:17, "No weapon that is formed against you will prosper; / And every tongue that accuses you in judgment you will condemn."
The enemy has one goal for the child of God, and that is destruction through any means he can use. He will tempt us to feel insecure, hopeless, abandoned, forgotten, and misused. His words are always laced with discouragement and accusations. Don't fall for his schemes. If others speak badly about you, keep your heart set on Christ. Do your best and trust Him to be your rear guard (Isa. 52:12; 58:8).
There's a great lesson in today's information. I've lived through a similar situation. At first, it was laughable, then the enemy worked hard to create division, anger, pity, and a host of other negative emotions in my heart toward my accusers. Through a few careful words from a friend and a few other sources, I began to see the situation for what it was, and why it was happening. God spoke to my heart, revealing his purpose for my life, and it put everything into perspective. It wasn't just one thing that turned me around, it was several, and it took a few months to work out.
While in the corporate world we used a term 'looking at it from 20,000 feet up'. It is so helpful to try and remove yourself from the muck and mire of the current situation and try to look at it from God's perspective. A perspective of wholeness, not just your little piece that's affecting you. When you see God's plan in deliverance, you have freedom and peace, and the tools to handle similar situations when they come up.
I remember a time when a group at church opposed me and did not want me to continue as pastor. The temptation that came to me was one of worry, fear, and insecurity. I instantly knew that if I listened to these voices, I would not be able to hear God's voice. Therefore, instead of giving in to thoughts of fear, I sought God in prayer, asking for His wisdom and encouragement.
He reminded me of the words in Isaiah 54:17, "No weapon that is formed against you will prosper; / And every tongue that accuses you in judgment you will condemn."
The enemy has one goal for the child of God, and that is destruction through any means he can use. He will tempt us to feel insecure, hopeless, abandoned, forgotten, and misused. His words are always laced with discouragement and accusations. Don't fall for his schemes. If others speak badly about you, keep your heart set on Christ. Do your best and trust Him to be your rear guard (Isa. 52:12; 58:8).
There's a great lesson in today's information. I've lived through a similar situation. At first, it was laughable, then the enemy worked hard to create division, anger, pity, and a host of other negative emotions in my heart toward my accusers. Through a few careful words from a friend and a few other sources, I began to see the situation for what it was, and why it was happening. God spoke to my heart, revealing his purpose for my life, and it put everything into perspective. It wasn't just one thing that turned me around, it was several, and it took a few months to work out.
While in the corporate world we used a term 'looking at it from 20,000 feet up'. It is so helpful to try and remove yourself from the muck and mire of the current situation and try to look at it from God's perspective. A perspective of wholeness, not just your little piece that's affecting you. When you see God's plan in deliverance, you have freedom and peace, and the tools to handle similar situations when they come up.
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #19
Continuing on the The Landmine of Insecurity by Charles Stanley
God uses our circumstances to shape us. If He allows difficulties, then you know He is going to do something wonderful in your life. If you grew up hearing how much smarter your brother or sister was, then you probably felt insecure and frustrated. God will never compare you to another person. You are His, and He loves you just the way you are. If you trust Him, He will teach you all you need to know, and in His book, you will never see a failing grade.
First, you must believe in His ability and faithfulness. Second, you must trust Him even when the odds seem stacked against you. And third, you must be willing to wait for His timing. When you do, you will receive a great blessing.
Never let anyone tell you that you cannot reach the goals God helps you set. More important, do not allow negative thoughts or words to define who you are as a child of God. You have everything you need to become what God has created you to be.
If you have godly dreams hidden within your heart, then ask Him to bring them to the forefront and help you reach each one.
He will never give you more than you can handle, and if He gives you an opportunity, He also will empower you to do the work. Believe because "all things are possible to him who believes" (Mark 9:23).
There are some things we will not be able to do because God has not called us to do them. However, there are other things that He wants us to do. We will face feelings of insecurity and even feel as though we cannot do the task, but we can through Him. Too many people see a challenge and immediately think, I know I can't do it, so I won't even try.
But often, it is in the times of failure that God does His greatest work. He uses each one of our failures to mold our lives so we will become the people He has planned for us to be.
Tomorrow we'll look at Set Your Focus on Christ and Receive the Victory. As I write these wise words, I think of those of you who I know read my blog. Some of you I know deal with insecurity and fear on a daily basis, and some I have no clue. If this topic is one in which you've conquered, please stop and pray for those who are struggling with these landmines. Feel free to comment on how you've overcome these lies of the enemy, it would benefit many. Have a beautiful day.
God uses our circumstances to shape us. If He allows difficulties, then you know He is going to do something wonderful in your life. If you grew up hearing how much smarter your brother or sister was, then you probably felt insecure and frustrated. God will never compare you to another person. You are His, and He loves you just the way you are. If you trust Him, He will teach you all you need to know, and in His book, you will never see a failing grade.
First, you must believe in His ability and faithfulness. Second, you must trust Him even when the odds seem stacked against you. And third, you must be willing to wait for His timing. When you do, you will receive a great blessing.
Never let anyone tell you that you cannot reach the goals God helps you set. More important, do not allow negative thoughts or words to define who you are as a child of God. You have everything you need to become what God has created you to be.
If you have godly dreams hidden within your heart, then ask Him to bring them to the forefront and help you reach each one.
He will never give you more than you can handle, and if He gives you an opportunity, He also will empower you to do the work. Believe because "all things are possible to him who believes" (Mark 9:23).
There are some things we will not be able to do because God has not called us to do them. However, there are other things that He wants us to do. We will face feelings of insecurity and even feel as though we cannot do the task, but we can through Him. Too many people see a challenge and immediately think, I know I can't do it, so I won't even try.
But often, it is in the times of failure that God does His greatest work. He uses each one of our failures to mold our lives so we will become the people He has planned for us to be.
Tomorrow we'll look at Set Your Focus on Christ and Receive the Victory. As I write these wise words, I think of those of you who I know read my blog. Some of you I know deal with insecurity and fear on a daily basis, and some I have no clue. If this topic is one in which you've conquered, please stop and pray for those who are struggling with these landmines. Feel free to comment on how you've overcome these lies of the enemy, it would benefit many. Have a beautiful day.
Monday, March 24, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #18
Continuing on with the Root Causes of Insecurity by Charles Stanley
Having unrealistic rules and regulations can stifle the natural creativity that God has placed within us. Sometimes parents set rules that they could not keep. though children cannot know the breadth of the consequences, they must know deep inside that the regulation is too great or difficult for them to handle. The frustration created by this inner conflict can lead to deep-seated feelings of inadequacy. Rules are meant to help us live according to God's will and plan. However, far too often, they are misused in an effort to confine and thus prevent a child or young adult from trusting and believing in God's sovereign ability.
You always need to do you best, look your best, and be your best. However, if your best is set at t certain level, you need to ask God to help you accept this.
Many people live below their potential because they have settled for less. They feel insecure and stop. The way to overcome this is to:
1. Ask God to help you see your life from His perspective
2. Be willing to obey Him and grow in your knowledge about Him and His way
3. Seek to be a success from God's viewpoint and not from the world's standard
Also, setting unrealistic goals that God does not want you to establish can lead to insecure feelings, especially for young children.
What does He3 have to say about insecurity? That it is deadly, and if Satan has his way, he will use it to prevent us from accomplishing the goals God wants us to reach in our lifetimes.
Having a poor body image.
Not receiving positive feedback.
Let's stop there for now. The next section on being overshadowed by siblings is a little long. I hope these words about insecurity are helpful. Even if you normally don't fall into this landmine very often, it's good to hear about all the potential destruction it can cause. Have a blessed day.
Having unrealistic rules and regulations can stifle the natural creativity that God has placed within us. Sometimes parents set rules that they could not keep. though children cannot know the breadth of the consequences, they must know deep inside that the regulation is too great or difficult for them to handle. The frustration created by this inner conflict can lead to deep-seated feelings of inadequacy. Rules are meant to help us live according to God's will and plan. However, far too often, they are misused in an effort to confine and thus prevent a child or young adult from trusting and believing in God's sovereign ability.
You always need to do you best, look your best, and be your best. However, if your best is set at t certain level, you need to ask God to help you accept this.
Many people live below their potential because they have settled for less. They feel insecure and stop. The way to overcome this is to:
1. Ask God to help you see your life from His perspective
2. Be willing to obey Him and grow in your knowledge about Him and His way
3. Seek to be a success from God's viewpoint and not from the world's standard
Also, setting unrealistic goals that God does not want you to establish can lead to insecure feelings, especially for young children.
What does He3 have to say about insecurity? That it is deadly, and if Satan has his way, he will use it to prevent us from accomplishing the goals God wants us to reach in our lifetimes.
Having a poor body image.
Not receiving positive feedback.
Let's stop there for now. The next section on being overshadowed by siblings is a little long. I hope these words about insecurity are helpful. Even if you normally don't fall into this landmine very often, it's good to hear about all the potential destruction it can cause. Have a blessed day.
Sunday, March 23, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #17 & Prayer Walk #3
Yesterday's prayer walk was great. We got a lot of good stuff from God about the people there and things to come.
The Root Causes of Insecurity by Charles Stanley
What causes someone to feel insecure? At some point, she may have faced rejection or a lack of acceptance. If you have a sense of security in God, then you will discover the peace and joy that He has to offer no matter what your situation may be.
Broken relationships can leave us wondering if we have a character flaw. Or facing a layoff at work can leave a person feeling insecure about the future as well as his personal ability. Growing older and realizing you may not reach the goals you wanted to reach can have a disastrous effect. Losing a loved one can revive or create feelings of insecurity, fear, and depression. We do not have to fear the future or be concerned about what another person may think of us (Rom. 8:38-39)
Feeling threatened, off balance, or on the edge. One of the primary reasons some people feel insecure is because they grew up in an insecure environment. Their world seemed very unpredictable, and there was an uncertainty to life that prevented them from feeling safe.
They may feel off balance because their father was an alcoholic or their mother or father left home or died when they were young. Just when a child needs to know that he or she is safe, loved, and cared for, the bottom to life seems to drop out. Often the child grows up to be an adult with deep seated insecurities.
There are other circumstances that create instability in our lives - failure, a financial loss, or divorce. When we feel insecure about ourselves, we will not be able to accomplish the goals that God has set for us to reach. The reasons this happens is that we feel inadequate, inferior, and insecure. We'll try to hid in the back of the crowd, hoping that no one will notice us. But God always does. He knows our potential - the same way He knew the potential of Moses. He does not want us to feel insecure; He wants us to trust Him. When we do, we will gain a sense of security because God supports us with an unshakable sense of power.
Well stop there for today. The next root cause is Having Unrealistic Rules and Regulations. I hope you have a wonderful Easter. We're off to services.
The Root Causes of Insecurity by Charles Stanley
What causes someone to feel insecure? At some point, she may have faced rejection or a lack of acceptance. If you have a sense of security in God, then you will discover the peace and joy that He has to offer no matter what your situation may be.
Broken relationships can leave us wondering if we have a character flaw. Or facing a layoff at work can leave a person feeling insecure about the future as well as his personal ability. Growing older and realizing you may not reach the goals you wanted to reach can have a disastrous effect. Losing a loved one can revive or create feelings of insecurity, fear, and depression. We do not have to fear the future or be concerned about what another person may think of us (Rom. 8:38-39)
Feeling threatened, off balance, or on the edge. One of the primary reasons some people feel insecure is because they grew up in an insecure environment. Their world seemed very unpredictable, and there was an uncertainty to life that prevented them from feeling safe.
They may feel off balance because their father was an alcoholic or their mother or father left home or died when they were young. Just when a child needs to know that he or she is safe, loved, and cared for, the bottom to life seems to drop out. Often the child grows up to be an adult with deep seated insecurities.
There are other circumstances that create instability in our lives - failure, a financial loss, or divorce. When we feel insecure about ourselves, we will not be able to accomplish the goals that God has set for us to reach. The reasons this happens is that we feel inadequate, inferior, and insecure. We'll try to hid in the back of the crowd, hoping that no one will notice us. But God always does. He knows our potential - the same way He knew the potential of Moses. He does not want us to feel insecure; He wants us to trust Him. When we do, we will gain a sense of security because God supports us with an unshakable sense of power.
Well stop there for today. The next root cause is Having Unrealistic Rules and Regulations. I hope you have a wonderful Easter. We're off to services.
Saturday, March 22, 2008
Spiritual Warfare #16 & Prayer Walk #3
Chapter Five, The Landmine of Insecurity by Charles Stanley
[Talking about Moses call to lead the people out of Egypt, the burning bush]
God's command to Moses required both courage and devotion. He was facing a lifestyle change that also would alter the way he felt about himself and especially the way he viewed God. It was a defining moment of extreme proportions, and like many of us, Moses immediately felt unequal to the task. He wavered in doubt and looked for a way to sidestep the call.
Moses was right: he was not equal to the task! This fact did not change God's plan for his life, however. Most of the challenges we face require faith in an infinite, all-powerful God. Regardless of the task, if we are convinced that we cannot succeed, we won't. On the other hand, if we trust the sovereignty and strength of God at work in our lives, we will succeed.
Exposing the Truth About Insecurity
[Talking about Moses discovering he was a Hebrew and couldn't go back to where he was brought up, but also feeling he wasn't equipped for the task God was asking him to do.]
Have you ever felt this way? You know the Lord has led you to a certain point. He has placed you in a position that requires more of you than you believe you can do. Insecurity is not a struggle like jealousy, envy, or pride. It may not sound explosive, but it is. The landmine of insecurity is both dangerous and destructive. To a person with a sense of insecurity, everything within her life seems unstable and unreliable.
God knows our limitations and usually will place us in situations that stretch our faith beyond what we think we can bear. He wants to develop our faith. In order to do this, faith must be tested. This means placing us in situations where we must come face-to-face with our insecurities and where we choose to trust God with the situation.
You may think, I can't do anything well, but from God's perspective, you are a person of notable excellence. You can do all things through Christ (Phil. 4:13). Moses went from being a shepherd to the leader of the Exodus. That was quite a shift in roles, and God just may do a similar work in your life, but first you must be willing to trust and obey Him.
Take the Right Steps to Avoid Insecurity
First, you need to remember that Satan will stop at nothing to lay landmines of insecurity within your life. He knows God has a plan for you. Satan also is aware of your potential because of the presence of God's Spirit. Therefore, he enjoys setting little explosions of insecurity throughout your life with the hope of them turning into a blaze of discouragement and hopelessness. You can detect and defuse his enticements.
However, it is one thing to feel insecure about a particular situation and another thing to grow up with insecurity and have it programmed into your thinking every day. Satan's intent with insecurity is to leave us feeling disappointed and more like failures than conquerors, but we must remember that we are more than conquerors through Christ (Rom. 8:37).
Isn't that great stuff? I love it! Tomorrow we'll look at the root causes of insecurity. I think this chapter goes along with what we've been learning this last year about God calling us to do something great and we don't even know if we can. BUT WE CAN! Stay tuned, more to come!
On a more personal note, Greg and I are going on a prayer walk this afternoon on the west side again. We'll pray for the neighborhood and the school, and then we're stopping by some old friends of Greg's for me to meet.
Have a blessed Easter. As the Christians of long ago would say to greet others and see if they were also Christians, "He is risen" and "He is risen indeed!"
[Talking about Moses call to lead the people out of Egypt, the burning bush]
God's command to Moses required both courage and devotion. He was facing a lifestyle change that also would alter the way he felt about himself and especially the way he viewed God. It was a defining moment of extreme proportions, and like many of us, Moses immediately felt unequal to the task. He wavered in doubt and looked for a way to sidestep the call.
Moses was right: he was not equal to the task! This fact did not change God's plan for his life, however. Most of the challenges we face require faith in an infinite, all-powerful God. Regardless of the task, if we are convinced that we cannot succeed, we won't. On the other hand, if we trust the sovereignty and strength of God at work in our lives, we will succeed.
Exposing the Truth About Insecurity
[Talking about Moses discovering he was a Hebrew and couldn't go back to where he was brought up, but also feeling he wasn't equipped for the task God was asking him to do.]
Have you ever felt this way? You know the Lord has led you to a certain point. He has placed you in a position that requires more of you than you believe you can do. Insecurity is not a struggle like jealousy, envy, or pride. It may not sound explosive, but it is. The landmine of insecurity is both dangerous and destructive. To a person with a sense of insecurity, everything within her life seems unstable and unreliable.
God knows our limitations and usually will place us in situations that stretch our faith beyond what we think we can bear. He wants to develop our faith. In order to do this, faith must be tested. This means placing us in situations where we must come face-to-face with our insecurities and where we choose to trust God with the situation.
You may think, I can't do anything well, but from God's perspective, you are a person of notable excellence. You can do all things through Christ (Phil. 4:13). Moses went from being a shepherd to the leader of the Exodus. That was quite a shift in roles, and God just may do a similar work in your life, but first you must be willing to trust and obey Him.
Take the Right Steps to Avoid Insecurity
First, you need to remember that Satan will stop at nothing to lay landmines of insecurity within your life. He knows God has a plan for you. Satan also is aware of your potential because of the presence of God's Spirit. Therefore, he enjoys setting little explosions of insecurity throughout your life with the hope of them turning into a blaze of discouragement and hopelessness. You can detect and defuse his enticements.
However, it is one thing to feel insecure about a particular situation and another thing to grow up with insecurity and have it programmed into your thinking every day. Satan's intent with insecurity is to leave us feeling disappointed and more like failures than conquerors, but we must remember that we are more than conquerors through Christ (Rom. 8:37).
Isn't that great stuff? I love it! Tomorrow we'll look at the root causes of insecurity. I think this chapter goes along with what we've been learning this last year about God calling us to do something great and we don't even know if we can. BUT WE CAN! Stay tuned, more to come!
On a more personal note, Greg and I are going on a prayer walk this afternoon on the west side again. We'll pray for the neighborhood and the school, and then we're stopping by some old friends of Greg's for me to meet.
Have a blessed Easter. As the Christians of long ago would say to greet others and see if they were also Christians, "He is risen" and "He is risen indeed!"
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