I had a stray thought the other day. As Greg has been preparing to do two weeks on Conflict Management for our small group, I was thinking about our marriage and the marriages of those around us and had this picture come into my mind. I saw a slice view of the earth, like in 4th grade.
I saw the mountains and valleys as the relational stuff we go through every day. Surface stuff. Good times and bad. If we follow God's word and not let the sun go down on our anger, our disagreements never damage the mantle, where hurt begins. This is the level of love in our marriage. It's the thing that protects our commitment and allows us to maintain our relationship, holding up the mountains and surviving the valleys.
If our love is hurt by name calling, insults, or physical abuse, we've really damaged our love for one another and it takes quite a bit to heal that. If these negative behaviors continue to occur and never get a chance to heal, we risk damaging the core, our commitment. That is where couples find themselves when they consider divorce.
God advised us to never allow the sun to go down on our anger so that our love for one another and our commitment to one another are never threatened. Keep your disagreements to a minimum, talk things out, clear the air, kill the elephants, etc. Protect your marriage's inner core.
Blessings to you on this windy, sunny Tuesday!
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